Handling Co-Parenting Carefully
Good co-parenting is more than just doing what is convenient for you; it is putting your children first.
Co-parenting, also called shared parenting, is when both parents work together in order to raise their kids despite the end of the romantic relationship or the marriage. Working together to co-parent can be better for everyone in the long run, as you do not want any further issues with your children struggling to adjust after the divorce or breakup. Given that emotions are almost always running high when the relationship ends, you have to be extra careful and learn how to set those feelings aside.
If you need assistance with developing a parenting plan, it is important to speak with a Pearland family law attorney . In the meantime, here are some helpful tips when it comes to co-parenting.
The idea of working together with your ex is something neither party is likely looking forward to. One of the most important things you can do is to remain civil with your ex. Do not add fuel to the fire and intentionally try to anger your ex. Focus on whatever issues you need to address and keep all your communication calm and civil.
Always remember that co-parenting is about your children, not your own needs and wants. Your kids have had their lives turned upside down, always remember that. When a court looks at making custody awards, they put the child’s needs first and do what is in their best interest. You should continue that, and always remember that you and your ex need to put your kids’ needs before yours when at all possible.
Try to be flexible. If your ex needs assistance or has to change days because of a legitimate issue, do not throw it in his or her face or make threats. Remember, something may come up on your end that requires you to switch days. If you were rude and inflexible, you can expect your ex to be the same.
Also, both sides should be respectful of the rules and work together to maintain continuity. If you set your child’s bedtime at 8pm and your ex is letting your kids go to sleep at midnight, there are going to be some problems. You should both enforce bedtime at the same time, no matter which household the children are in. If one parent punishes the children for something that happened, the other parent should follow suit. For example, if your ex grounded your children and said no television for a week, and there is a good reason for it, you should enforce the terms of the punishment, as well.
You should also make sure you are not badmouthing your ex in front of your kids. Refrain from speaking badly about him or her so that your children do not feel like they are put in the middle. There is also the risk that your children will assume you think less of them, too, since half of their DNA comes from your ex.
In the event you need assistance in resolving outstanding matters or you are unsure what your next steps are in creating a co-parenting agreement, it is important to speak with a skilled Pearland divorce attorney who has experience with co-parenting matters. Contact John Powell III at 832-850-6095 to schedule an initial consultation.